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Falling In Love

“ Imagine a crap of wood and toss it into a frozen lake. Wait a while, slowly, it will be coated in a thin layer of ice until it is transformed and sparkles as brightly as a diamond. This process is called crystallization. In his book On Love, the nineteenth century French author Stendhal wrote that falling in love works much the same way. At first the object of love appears to be absolutely  perfect, even extraordinary. For Stendhal, the period of crystallization is fleeting, obsessional, and quixotic - a phase during which the object of affection is completely idealized. “ -How to be a Parisian wherever you are.

To be honest when I have bought this book. I thought it was going to be a joke. But, to my surprise I have actually learned a lot. It made me open my eyes to my feelings that I have never said out loud, one of those feelings is love. 

I can’t believe that I’am actually writing a blog about love, since am not the best candidate for it, and its obviously proven in my previous blogs.

When I read that quoted paragraph, the first thought that came to my head is how poetic, beautiful, peaceful love must be. But, in truth it is not. This feeling that is called “ Love” is very idealized, idolized, and overrated. It has always been the talk of everyone, when in the end it has always been “ Love will come in the right time and the right place “.

There’s a song called Can’t Hide for Whethan, Ashe. The lyrics are everything you need to know of what am talking about.

Not everyone you look at is your future love, and just because he/she smiled to you, doesn’t mean that they are your future lovers.

Don’t allow your eyes to indorse your heart with untrue feelings. Not everything you see is true. Because as my teacher said “ One eye sees, the other one feels” - Mahnaz.

You just start living in that imaginary world of yours, but in reality you barely know that person. You don’t even have a single idea probably how she/he even sounds like.

All what you can say is that it was love from first sight, you just fell head over heels for that unknown person. The question is why ?
It’s because you allowed the eye that feels, to feel first. Instead of letting the eye that sees to see first.

When you see things, and people, with one big opened eye. That’s when you use your brain to see things. Because obviously not everything on the outside is as good as on the inside, and vice versa.

Falling in Love is tough, and falling with the wrong person is tougher. 

Well this blog will be continued later. That’s it for now.

Photo courtesy of Asma Haddad.

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